Instead of listing all the things I need to work on in my life , here are some Ann Landers articles I had cut out years ago. It's about time I started treating myself and others better.Ten Commandments of How to Get Along with People:
1. Keep skid chains on your tongue. Always say less than you think. Try to cultivate a low, persuasive voice. Sometimes, it's not what you say but the way that you say it that makes the difference.
2. Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully, no matter what the cost.
Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, offer it gently, never harshly.
4. Be interested in others -- their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Make merry with those who rejoice and weep with those who mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him or her as a person of importance.
5. Be cheerful. Don't burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of burden, often heavier than your own.
6. Keep an open mind. Discuss, but don't argue. It is a mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.
7. Let your virtues, if you have any, speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of another's vices. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time, and can be extremely destructive.
8. Be careful of another's feelings. Wit and humour at another person's expense may do more damage than you will ever know.
9. Pay no attention to disparaging remarks. Remember, the person who carried the message may not be the most accurate reporter in the world, and things become twisted in the retelling. Live so that nobody will believe them.
10. Don't be too eager to get the credit due you. Do your best, and be patient. Forget about yourself, and let others "remember." Success is much sweeter that way.Maturity
Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction.
Maturity is patience. It is the willingness to pass up immediate pleasure in favour of long-term gain.
Maturity is perseverance, the ability to sweat out a project or a situation in spite of heavy opposition and discouraging setbacks.
Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness and frustration, discomfort and defeat, without complaint or collapse.
Maturity is humility. It is being big enough to say, "I was wrong." And, when right, the mature person need not experience the satisfaction of saying, "I told you so."
Maturity is the ability to make a decision and follow through. The immature spend their lives exploring endless possibilities and then do nothing.
Maturity means dependability, keeping one's word and coming through in a crisis. The immature are masters of the alibi. They are conflicted and disorganized. Their lives are a maze of broken promises, former friends, unfinished business and good intentions that never materialize.Just for Today
Just for today -- I will live through the next 12 hours and not try to tackle all of life's problems at once.
Just for today -- I will improve my mind. I will read something that requires thought and concentration.
Just for today -- I will be agreeable. I will look my best, speak in a well-modulated voice, be courteous and considerate.
Just for today -- I will not find fault with friend, relative or colleague. I will not try to change or improve anyone but myself.
Just for today --- I will do a good turn and keep it a secret. If anyone finds out, it won't count.
Just for today -- I will have a program. I might not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from two enemies -- hurry and indecision.
Just for today -- I will do two things I don't want to do, just because I need the discipline.
Just for today -- I will believe in myself. I will give my best to the world and feel confident that the world will give its best to me.
Whew, I have A LOT of growing up to do.